"Because here’s the thing about realizing you’re into girls. Hardly anyone I know has ever said, “Am I gay?” in the same way they say, “Hey, do you know what the weather’s supposed to be like tomorrow?” Like they just need to figure out how to dress for the occasion. No, when most people ask, “Am I gay?” they ask it with the kind of urgency they would usually reserve for things like, “Do I strap this parachute to my back and jump from this free falling airplane or do I nose dive into the ocean and hope the sharks don’t eat my remains? SINK OR SWIM? LIVE OR DIE? QUENCH THE FIRE OR BURN ALIVE?” It feels so urgent, and the reason it feels so urgent is because you’re probably not just asking, “Hey, do I want to make out with other girls?”
 
You’re also probably asking: What the hell are my parents going to say when I tell them I want to kiss other girls? And my friends and my co-workers and my classmates and everyone at my family reunion? And what’s that girl going to say when I tell her I want to kiss her? And how is my life ever going to be OK, and how can I go on being the same, and am I the same, and what else do I not know about what’s alive inside me? And who will still love me and who will start hating me, and is God involved, or the government maybe, and what if it’s only one girl I want to kiss, and how do I label myself and must I label myself, and what if I change my mind and, really, what if I do burn alive?"

- Heather Hogan

 

teamsciles:

laoisepotter:

Don’t you hate it when there’s a perfect opportunity for lesbians and the writers just don’t?

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Being in a relationship ends in one of two ways; breaking up or death. When you think about it like that, love really is doomed from the beginning yet we continue to nearly kill ourselves anyway just to taste it.

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candycornpizza:

a-little-bi-furious:

absentlyabbie:

tosailuponthesea:

tomasthebreaker:

How about no? Queer characters are humans. Humans die. That’s like me saying “Don’t kill black or Hispanic characters because I’m black and Hispanic or because they’re black and hispanic”. Characters die. It sucks.

Yes, it does suck. Because representation of minority groups matters. When queer characters are consistently used to prop up straight leads and killed off to give their straight counter-parts angsty storylines, it is a problem.

And yes, it is actually very much like saying “don’t kill black or Latin@ characters.” Because those groups also suffer from issues of representation.

It’s not that queer characters should never ever die. It’s that we haven’t yet reached a point where that one queer character’s death (and it’s not just one) is incidental because there are so many other queer characters on the screen.

Shows like Orange is the New Black, Sleepy Hollow, How to Get Away with Murder, and Brooklyn Nine-Nine all have multiple POC in lead roles. But there is much further to go.

Stephanie Beatriz (who plays Rosa Diaz on Brooklyn Nine-Nine) wrote about how she was shocked to even get the role because a Latina actress (Melissa Fumero who plays Amy Santiago) had already been cast. How messed up is that?

LGBTQ+ representation is arguably even worse. In fact, the only show I can think of that is currently on air that has more than one main queer character is Orange is the New Black. (Correct me if I’m wrong. Please.) And bisexual characters are even rarer than gay & lesbian characters. Not to mention the bisexual erasure that happens, when a character who has previously had feelings-for-or-relationships-with people of one gender, begins to have feelings-for-or-a-relationship-with someone of another gender, and is declared to have “become” gay without even acknowledging the possibility that their sexuality is more fluid than that. (Willow “gay now” Rosenberg from Buffy the Vampire Slayer, and Ramona “it was just a phase” Flowers from Scott Pilgrim both spring to mind.)

GLAAD in their Hollywood survey pointed out “that studios seemed ‘reluctant’ to include LGBT characters in comic book adaptations and action franchises" in particular. Hmm.

On Agents of SHIELD, we had two in-charge, incredible, fierce lesbian agents who were both killed off for shock value & possibly Hunter’s angst, who weren’t even given the screen time to establish their sexualities or relationship.

On Arrow, we had a kick-ass, powerful, inspiring, bisexual hero who was literally thrown away in the garbage to further Oliver’s angst and to fuel Laurel’s evolution into Black Canary.

I say again, STOP KILLING QUEER CHARACTERS.

ALLLLLLL OF THIS ^^^^^^^^^^^^

Also let’s not forget that Black Canary explicitly was not labeled bisexual because the writers and producers "really wanted to approach it like not be salacious, and be sensitive, and be realistic."

“‘studios seemed ‘reluctant’ to include LGBT characters in comic book adaptations and action franchises’ in particular.”

what the ever loving FUCK

spoopybelgium:

the fun thing about getting to know yourself and your sexuality is to look back on your childhood memories and think

wow

that was really fucking gay